I have been married for 5 years and with my guy for almost 7. As cliché as it sounds, we couldn’t be happier. There are days, of course. But overall, I wouldn’t change a thing. Except each other.
When we first got together, it was “good for the goose is good for the gander'” and we loved and did absolutely everything together. Same music, same movies, same activities, same interests — we met on a slo-pitch ball diamond, for heaven’s sake. Now, our interests and favorite activities are becoming diversified, and I thought we were realizing my worst fear: growing apart.
Over the past 7 years, we have changed from who we used to be. My interests have changed and evolved, to where I have become a lover of writing and reading. My guy, on the other hand, has become involved in the world of sports memorabilia, and the many intricate details of the hobby. Not quite the same niche.
But after some thought, I realize that I have nothing to be concerned about. In fact, I am grateful for the changes. We are growing – yes. When we met, we were younger and less mature – less ourselves. We have been busily turning into the people we are supposed to be. But we are doing it together. It doesn’t mean we have to love all the same things anymore, or even do them all together all the time. As we grow, we change; but by doing it together, we are enriched as a couple.
I have learned about hockey cards; what makes them valuable and what doesn’t. He has learned about cognitive theories related to technical writing, and how to proof-read blog posts. We both still love watching and playing sports together, playing crib and doing crosswords, watching movies and cuddling, and generally being together as much as real life allows. But when we aren’t doing the same things, we are still ‘together’. I read in the next room while he checks the latest box break; and we share a cup of tea while discussing our new discoveries. I tell him about my newest blog idea while he describes last night’s box scores, as we hold hands and have dinner.
Ever growing. Ever changing. Ever enriching; but not apart. Together.