I had an interesting conversation with my family this evening, surrounding death and the leaving of those we love behind. It really got me thinking about the idea of finished, or rather unfinished business. This ‘business’ ranges from an unpaid mortgage, to bucket list items not yet completed, to family or friend relationships left with things left undone or unsaid.
What if we all tried to live with as much finished business as possible? I don’t necessarily mean leaving no stone unturned… After all, we are not all going to have completed our bucket lists or paid off our houses by the ripe old ages of 30 (ish). But what about the more important things; the things that would really stay with us, or rather – with those we left behind, if we were to pass on?
Here are some pieces of finished business that I try to live by.
- Never go to bed mad. Always settle an argument when it happens; don’t let it just sit and grow bigger, and don’t just push it away knowing that it will come back another day. Ultimately, the words spoken in anger will be the ones remembered when it is too late for new words to be said.
- Don’t save your favorite clothes, dishes, or activities for ‘special occasions’. Take the time to celebrate the every day, the average day, the regular day. Those are the days that we have the most of and those are the ones that should be special.
- Know that you are loved; and more importantly, give enough love freely and fully to know that those around you know they are loved. Use thank you’s, you’re welcomes, pleases, and smiles at every opportunity. Don’t be afraid to say “I love you”.
If we could all live our lives with less unfinished business… Would we all be busier? No. Would we have less time for what we think is really important? Doubtful. But would we all be happier and maybe a little more settled in the face of adversity? I think so. And that alone, in my opinion, is a reward worth finishing our business for.