Archive for October, 2011

Recently, I heard a comment about how we love the people in our lives. The idea was that we all want to be loved, but we often recognize love only when it’s given to us in the same manner that we would give it to someone else. And consequently, when love is given to us in an unfamiliar way, it tends to go unnoticed.

For some, love is as simple as a wink when no one else is looking or a text message with a smiley face. For others, love means outward and public displays of affection, gushing ‘I love you’s’, and hand-holding at ever possible moment. But in the end, the key is to recognize how others give and show love and blend that with how you give and show love.  That way, the affection is recognized when it comes along, no matter what form it’s in.

So the next time you expect an ‘I love you’ written across the sky and what you get is a wink and a slight touch of a hand, remember that there is no right or wrong way to love or to be loved.

Just make sure that you do.


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Measuring Your Minutes

I had a beautiful weekend – one of the best I can remember in a long time. Not because I didn’t have to work. And not because I didn’t have to do school. But because I did things without wondering… “If I’m spending two hours here, that means I only have six hours there, with three hours left over…”

As someone very close to me so eloquently put it, for the first time in a long time I didn’t measure my minutes.

In today’s fast-paced world, we are constantly juggling multiple tasks and competing demands for our attention. It sometimes seems impossible not to consider what we’re giving up in order to accomplish something else. For example: If I spend two hours at the theatre, and I need to spend one hour working, 45 minutes running, an hour for supper, and 30 minutes to check email, what do those two hours spent in the theatre mean to me? They might mean no run. They might mean a rushed supper. But either way, those minutes spent in the theatre are measured up and dished out against the rest of the time I have, and if they are spent in one way I need to consider and remember that I can’t spend them somewhere else.

But what if we could spend our time just doing? What if we could choose to spend two hours at the theatre, and then enjoy those two hours without worrying what we had sacrificed in their place? After all, there are plenty of other things that we need to measure on a regular basis, like height and weight, tablespoons and teaspoons, or even financial risks and returns.

So let’s not add time to that list.

Don’t measure your minutes. Just enjoy them, instead.

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Credit Where Credit Is Due

Per my last post; I’m done school. Hurrah! And for better or worse, all of my new-found ‘free time’ is giving me quite a bit of room to think. Most recently, I unearthed a very important nugget: It’s time to give credit where credit is due.

I would not be where I am, and who I am, without the love and support of my husband, my family, and my friends.

There is the old phrase “No man is an island“.  And not to be overlooked, the famous song from the Beetles “With a little help from my friends“. Whichever adage you prefer, the thought process is the same: our lives are richer because of those in them, and we are stronger because of those around us.

I’m not disputing the value of believing in yourself, or the reality that we as individuals can often accomplish much more than we thought possible.  But for me, there is no greater truth than that which points to the special people in my life as my true source of strength.

To those people:

You are my rock.
You are the joy in my days and my light when things are dark.
You are what props me up when I’m falling over.
You are my gentle reminder to keep on keepin’ on.
You are the single set of Footprints in the sand when times are unbearable.
You are the reasons I am; You are the reasons I can.

Thank you all so much. My words don’t truly express my gratitude or my acknowledgement of everything you do for me, but they are the only way I know how to give credit where credit is due.

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What I’m Going To Do Now

This past week, I successfully completed my certificate in technical communications from Simon Fraser University. Countless hours, many late nights, nine challenging courses, and almost two years later, I learned many valuable things both about my craft and about the business of #techcomm. But even more than that, I learned a lot about my own personal limits and how far I could bend…Without breaking.

Juggling a full-time job with a full-time life and mixing in some very intense schooling was a bigger challenge than I could have imagined. And it didn’t matter what season was going on around me; school got in my way. I missed out on family time, friend time, holiday time, and vacation time. I worked an eight-hour day at work and came home to another four or five-hour work night at home. My canned answer to invitations was ‘I can’t tonight, I have school. Sorry.’ And so it went.

But now, looking back, it was so much more than that. I made a commitment to myself that I would go out and obtain this particular certificate. And as the old proverb says “Anything worth doing is worth doing well”.  And so…  I did. I battled the late nights. I conquered the last-minute assignment adjustments. But most importantly, to me, I beat the little voice in my head that said “You can’t do this. You are too tired. You are too burnt out. You should just quit.” And towards the end, that voice got extremely loud, believe you me.  It was all I could hear for the last few weeks.

But I made it. And so now, I’ve been asked (already): What am I going to do now?

Husband time. Family time. Cat snuggle time. And all those little, un-graded, but oh-so very important things in between. Oh — and with a little bit of nothing mixed in, for good measure.

That’s what I’m going to do now. And I’m going to enjoy every minute of it.

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