I’ve spent some time thinking about why my changes in February never really took hold. And I think it’s because I broke one of my own cardinal rules to only put one foot in front of another, and always take one step at a time.
In February, I tried to change one concept about myself (attitude) but I went about it with four big goals:
Even looking at it now, it’s a daunting list. Those are a lot of big words with even bigger connotations. And I tried to take them all on in a single month. In retrospect, I think I would have had much better success if I had focused on one change at a time. For example – use February to work on being mindful. But instead, I tried to do it all at once, and succeeded at not doing any of them very well at all.
It’s interesting that I did this to myself; to be perfectly honest, I know better. I have been here before, with different aspects of my life. And I’ve learned, each and every time, that in order to change something big I have to start small. Some examples that come to mind are:
- Diet. I cannot go from eating whatever I want whenever I want to living off carrot sticks and water. I will fail. I have failed. Instead, I have found great success in striving for moderation and reasonable changes, week by week, as I move forward. Before I know it, I’m craving what’s good for me and have forgotten about the rest.
- Exercise. I cannot go from being sedentary to running marathons. I tried, and I ended up not only hurt (physically) but discouraged (mentally). Instead, I have found great success in walking a bit more each day, moving a bit more each day, until eventually, I’m more fit than I’ve ever been before.
Looking back, I can honestly see that February and I didn’t stand a chance. So, I’ve decided to adapt my March Harper-ness goal and add one of my failed goals from February.
I chose to add mindfulness. I think it fits nicely into March with my focus on perspective. If I try to be mindful of the moment I’m in and the situation that I’m facing, I believe it will help me keep perspective which will ultimately help me achieve my March goal.
So March has been re-branded, and here we go (again).