As most of you know, my husbee and I are just back from time away together, where of course, we took many photos. As I was going through these photos over the past few days, Google photos suddenly sent me a note, asking me if I’d like to see my stylized photos. Intrigued, I opened my Google folder and discovered that Google had applied various filters to my photos, making them brighter, crisper, black & white, sepia-toned, animated, or otherwise. Very interesting! And while the photos looked…different from the originals, I wasn’t convinced that all of them looked better.
In my mind, the question arose… why did I need filters on my photos? Was it because the initial moment wasn’t quite how I wanted it, so having the control to adjust it in my permanent memory would mean I could re-create my memories just how I wanted them? What does this automatic adjustment mean, then, to the reality of my memories? Were they still my moments, my memories? Or would they become something that never really happened?
Taking this thought one step further, I started to wonder… where else do we do this? Where else do we apply filters, to change our memories or make our lives brighter, sharper, or easier on our eyes?
A photo is a snapshot of time. It captures a single, fleeting moment of something or someone, that you want to remember. When I think about it, this is just like life. Life is a string of moments in time. All of these moments are unique, different, and fleeting. And every single moment will only happen once. Some of these moments are mundane, some are happy, some are devastating, some are memorable, and some are better forgotten. But they all come together to shape what we call our lives. If we start adjusting these moments, applying filters to make them more palatable to ourselves or the world around us, are they still real? Or do they become a fabricated set of events that are no longer real; that no longer belong to us?
Changing our lives to make them appear brighter, sharper, and more vivid can seem like a great thing at the time, but I believe that it actually dulls our true nature, our true existence, and our true sense of self. It removes reality from our lives; turning each moment into a fabricated instance fit for public consumption.
Every single moment of our lives does not need to be flashy, animated, or vibrant. In fact, there are many days where I am glad that my life goes by, moment by moment, just as it should… no pomp or circumstance, no extraordinary happenings; just moments of me and those around me, just as they should be, strung together to create my happy, albeit boring, existence. I don’t want to apply filters to these moments; I want them to happen just as they do, just as they should – and I want to know them, and remember them, exactly as they were.
So the next time Google tries to auto-magically filter my photos, I think I will take a moment to enjoy the vivid images, but I will be sure to keep a copy of all of my originals. I like my photos, and my life, just the way they are.
There is no need to apply a filter.
But first, let me take a selfie
Posted in Musings, Rant, Social Commentary on January 17, 2018| Leave a Comment »
I spent last week on a beautiful cruise with my husband. We visited the islands of Haiti, Jamaica, and Mexico, on the biggest cruise ship of the world (the Harmony of the Seas, by Royal Caribbean). It was amazing, breathtaking, beautiful, and a blessed experience that I am truly grateful for.
All of these beautiful locations had one thing in common. Ok, they all had more than one thing in common; they all had breathtaking sights, beautiful & friendly people, and crystal blue water. But what they also had was an abundance of people on their cell phones.
Thanks to the miracle of technology, people can now take selfies anywhere. I. Mean. ANYWHERE. We spent seven days on a gazillion-ton boat (which we nicknamed Boaty McBoatface, of course), and we visited three breathtakingly beautiful islands. And there, in the middle of what should have been a once in a lifetime experience for most of the 6,000 + passengers aboard the boat, I found a sad (and surprisingly large) number of people more interested in searching Instagram and Facebook, and taking staged-to-look-spontaneous selfies to post for their followers on social media, than they were in just taking in the miracle around them.
Don’t get me wrong, I am all for taking photos to remember where I have been and who I was with. I have a sketchy memory at best, and photos are the best way for me to make sure I have a record of the adventures of my life. But I don’t mean a selfie-photo-record with my hair just right, my clothes just so, and my makeup (what makeup?!) ready for prime-time. I mean photos of me and my husband neck deep in ocean water laughing so hard one eye is closed, or the hermit crab named Hermie that we spent some time with, or the waves crashing into the side of a spectacularly green island. A real photo record of what took place.
Has our society swung too far? In a world where likes mean more than interactions, and a perfect selfie is how we judge each other, what does it mean when a five year-old on a beach in Jamaica has a selfie stick and is more interested in that, than in building sandcastles with his parents (both of whom also look like they just got off a runway in Milan, and spend 45 minutes posing continually for their own selfies, with their own selfie sticks).
Let’s back up one step further. What does it mean when we now have a stick, yes, a STICK, named after an epidemic of needing-to-look-perfect-at-all-times people, whose goal in life seems to be to take and post a perfectly posed, perfectly rehearsed, not-at-all-spontaneous-but completely-staged-to-look-candid photo of oneself, just to see how many people will react to it? And if the reaction isn’t what we hoped for, we take it down and put up another one? What is going ON?
I believe this is a very sad statement. In a world so preoccupied with looking perfect for the next shot of self… we’re not only judging and shaming those around us who don’t look the way the media expects, but we are also completely missing the life that is going on around us. Reminder: we only get one shot at that life, whizzing by; seconds ticking as our cameras are clicking.
As a passenger on the world’s biggest cruise ship, in the world’s bluest ocean, going to places and having experiences that only a tiny fraction of the world’s population will ever be lucky enough to experience, what I should be doing is stepping back, and breathing in the beauty.
But FIRST, let me take a selfie.
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